Ambivalent, Sensitive, or Empathetic?

Where are you at in your soul journey?

Ambivalence This is where the majority of the collective is stuck at. Most people really don’t care about each other, about Gaia, about animals or the future. The only thing that really triggers emotions in them is anything that threatens their Ego. They chase pleasure as opposed to happiness and have addictions; to food, drugs, work, sex, narcissistic supply etc. A state of ambivalence shows a dangerously low level of conscientiousness. People in a state of ambivalence can only have co-dependant relationships (family, platonic or romantic) because they don’t actually care about the other persons’ well-being. They are only concerned about what they are gaining from the relationship personally. They can have genuine emotions, but they are Self-focused. There is no soul connection to anything, or heart centered action. There is little to no awareness of collective consciousness and the connection that we all share. They are either competitive or have given up.

Sensitive Most people who call themselves “Empaths” are really just sensitive. They are overtaken by their emotions and environment. They cannot manage their energy and are easily triggered. They don’t actually understand others and are often feeling taken advantage of or overwhelmed by events. They may take on the pain of others to their own detriment, & the detriment of the other soul as it prolongs their journey. They have reached a level of compassion (“concern for others”) but don’t have the knowledge, strength or skill to create change. They are primarily self-centered (which they would often disagree with as they lack awareness) -not for lack of caring but as a means of survival. When you’re feeling super-sensitive, you’re too frail to be concerned for others. They often put up with bad treatment from others and say things like “I just have a really big heart, that’s why I get take advantage of” Its a very weak state of being. Often they are aware of the collective connection, but can only perceive it through their own needs and worries. They are high in affective empathy, but lack intellectual empathy. They aren’t done evolving yet!

Empathic Empathic people posses the ability to be both affectively empathic and intellectually empathic. They are aware of their own needs, as well as others. They know how to effectively help, and when. They have transcended competitiveness & co-dependency. They are energetically strong and can easily manage their emotions. They do not shy away from the truth, and make their choices based on truths, however harsh they may be. The know how to effectively create change for themselves and the collective. They are completely aware of the collective nature within this shared experience, and make choices that reflect that. They tend to be environmentally responsible and take real action towards making caring choices. They are neither “Me” focused nor “Them” focused … they are “Us” focused. They are kind; not nice, and tend not to care for preformative emotions. People who are still in the earlier stages of soul-development often have a hard time understanding Empaths because they are still working from an old program, which is based on manipulations (even “positive” manipulations such as niceties or social dances) They are authentic souls who are not typically bothered by the opinions of others. Their egos are well-balanced and they stay out of blame, understanding their roles within a relationship or situation. They see things for how they are, not for how they want it to be.

The Business Of Healing

Right off I’ll admit, I am not a fan of the currant monetary system. Whether you call it “capitalism” “communism” “socialism” etc, it really doesn’t matter. We’re all running under the Federal Reserve which values profit over the well-being of a society & Gaia. I do accept it though as it is just where we are, and I obviously participate in it as well. Our entire global economic system is by nature capitalist. By that I mean it capitalizes on resources and services to provide profit. This regime breeds competition which leads to the desecration of everything…. Including Spirit. The pursuit of profit has contaminated society and human behaviour.

Most humans are currently very easy to manipulate. They do not behave in a way that is aligned with Gaia or Source. It is very easy to entice people through fear, pleasure, ego, and the pursuit of greatness to essentially… buy shit. I’m talking about marketing to the masses. And truly anything can be marketed for profit. Its not ethical, but the monetary system clearly doesn’t give a fuck about ethics. Neither do most people now. Remember: capitalism breeds competition. You cannot care about ethics if you are to succeed in this competition. Unfortunately, this includes healing and spirituality.

Whether it be medicine, hospitals, churches or ashrams, humans are treating healing and spirituality, things that should be sacred, as opportunities to turn a profit. It honestly makes me nauseous. I know I shouldn’t judge but damn. Humans have really lost their way.

This isn’t to say that people, whether nurses, cooks, cashiers or healers, shouldn’t be compensated for their efforts. Just as it is okay to take food from the Earth, there is an ethical way of doing things.

Looking back at the origins of religion, we see that it started simply as a worshipping of God(s) with rituals and teachings that were to benefit society. It was never intended as a means to control the masses, despite what you may have read on some edge lords Fakebook.

That is until Capitalist minds took a hold of it.

(Some people blame religion for starting capitalism, but this is assuming religion started with Catholicism. I do not. Hinduism alone has been around much longer)

Regardless, the marketing of religion was its downfall. Preachers, Pastures, Churches and Temples started as a way to honour God and Spirit. Capitalistic minds saw an opportunity and desecrated them. Now church leaders use religion as a means to become rich by manipulating the very people they were meant to serve. The Catholic church alone took in $886 million in “donations” in 2019, and have $3.3 billion in properties alone. These numbers don’t even touch their stock portfolios. The Mormon church is nothing more than a real-estate holding company with an estimated $150 billion in proprietary assets. They do basically nothing to help their own members, and shamelessly take and gaslight them. Make of that what you will.

Capitalization is now, well, capitalizing on the spiritual movement as well. What was supposed to be an awakening of the human spirit, is now becoming the newest hottest business venture. Whether it be quickie Reiki courses, gurus without substance, “sacred” travel, or sweatshop-made yoga apparel, one thing is clear; none of this has anything to do with our divine nature or the ascension of the collective consciousness. The only depth these money-seekers are interested in is how low they are willing to go to turn a profit. Self-proclaimed chakra healers who have never even peeked at the Vedas. Energy healers who cant define what a meridian is, let alone have any clue of their own distortions. New-age “intuitives” that do nothing more than stroke the clients ego. Their only studies were courses which taught them to be business savvy; smile, tell them they are reincarnated goddesses instead of helping them with their shadows, with a heavy emphasis on how to get customers. This is Spirituality contaminated by capitalism.

I’m seeing healers pay to “win” awards in effort to fool customers of their qualifications. I know this is so as I have also been “awarded” the opportunity to pay for the same awards. Women are being “awarded” free trips to Bali, Costa Rica etc, and flexing on social media that they’ve been “picked” due to their greatness. How fucking egotistical can they be to believe this? When the clear catch is that they must in return, promote these destinations on their social media pages. Its a marketing ploy. They are being used for advertising. The only thing “great” about them is that they spend a lot of time sharing personal details online. With all the brilliant doctors and humanitarians out there, people really believe they’ve been “chosen” despite not really knowing or having done anything. Again, most humans are easily manipulated. These travel destination marketers couldn’t care less about Spirituality, Gaia or the local communities. They are rich business owners looking to make a profit off the latest trend.

It’s taken a lot of effort by a lot of great healers to get people to open up to our divine nature, only for fools & businessmen to tarnish the movement. Much like the environment, families, healthcare, and everything else good in this world, destroyed by capitalism. Yet it couldn’t happen without participation by many. And many will, because the many are now corrupted and selfish. Personal choices are made. And personal choices will have to be reviewed on the other side. Until then……

Manifesting 101

Lets get back to basics today, and talk about manifestation & magik. The universe is magikal. We know this as spiritually inclined beings. So why are so many spiritually inclined people having a difficult go at manifesting? For one, people make things more complicated than necessary.

As well, there’s this confusing message out there;

“You have to feel like you already have it!”

I think this is really getting peoples energy tangled up. It’s basically asking people to bullshit themselves. That’s…. that’s not going to bring on the magik.

So instead, follow this simple exercise. For weeks, years or even decades, until you’ve mastered it. Its simple, so don’t make it unnecessarily complicated, because that’s how you get confusing results. You also shouldn’t manifest things your not truly ready to manage, or worse, things your higher-self doesn’t even want because you are listening to the ego-mind (remember: you are not your mind!)

So here it is; just become a vibrational match. You must learn how to become a vibrational match for what you want because it can only exist within that vibration. You cannot manifest love, if your vibration is lack-of-love. Remember Einstiens simple yet exceptional understanding “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality”

You must learn to take authority over your emotional/energetic body (ie your frequency)

When you want something to manifest, lets say Love, you cannot pretend you already have it. This causes “resistance” energy because it actually highlights in your awareness what you don’t have, and again, you know you’re bullshitting yourself. If your tuned in, you can feel the resistance energy inside you when you play this pretend game. It feels uneasy, anxious, doubtful. That’s your body speaking to you. Listen to it. I don’t know where this pretend game came from but when clients come in and tell me they “can’t manifest” I ask them how they’ve been going about it… and it’s often this strange pretend game.

So how do we do it then? How do we match the frequency of the reality we want?

1) By learning to be grateful

2) By focusing on the desired vibration as it already exists

Honestly its that simple. Lets do the whole example thing, because that’s how I teach best

Start simply to avoid resistance energy. Walk before you run. Not big or small, just simple.

Lets say you want to manifest money. You want to see that bank account go up over the next few months.

Simply focus on how abundant and financially blessed you are right now. This, admittedly, is the part people get stuck on and the reason they cant manifest. Bad attitudes muck it all up here. Listen: you can so focus on how blessed you are right now. Do you have food to eat today? Have some damn appreciation! Really feel how financially blessed you are to have food. Let gratitude become your new attitude.Are you reading this on a smart phone? Wow, how blessed are you!?! Did your rent/mortgage/fee get paid? Blessed!!! Recognize how financially blessed you are as you go through your days weeks & months and your frequency will become that of financially blessed (as opposed to focusing on what you need, then feeling like you need more, because that frequency is of needing which creates an experience of needing) You feel financially blessed, you become the energy of financially blessed, you are now matching the frequency of financial blessings.

Notice how this isn’t lying to yourself, you’re just putting your awareness on what you want to grow. When you observe and take in how financially blessed you really are, you really begin to feel lucky, and you’re now the perfect match for financial abundance to exist in. It grows and grows! This is when magikal things begin pouring in! I focus on & appreciate my financial blessings anytime I’m scared of lack and the magikal ways money has poured in has been undeniably due to this technique. This is energetic mastery, being the authority of your emotional/energetic body. I’ve had repairmen fix my plumbing for free, lawyers tell me not to worry about 5-figure bills, new clients pouring in at a time I want more work, cars suddenly start working when mechanics tell me its needing this or that….

Listen, I am a practical down-to-earth lady. If I hadn’t seen this stuff work so precisely in my own life I wouldn’t believe it either, but it just works. Like magik.

Lets try another. Remember, were keeping it simple for as long as it takes to master this. Were not manifesting anything specific until we get the hang of matching frequencies.

Okay so you feel lonely and want Love. Cool, focus on whatever Love you already have. Don’t say you have no Love available to focus on, just find some Love and focus on it. Do your kids Love you? Does you Momma Love you? Can you find a tree to hug? Feel the love from God or Gaia? Do you Love your pet? Feel the Love, notice the Love that is already all around you. You are now in the frequency that supports Love. Make it a daily habit until it becomes you and the momentum takes over. The longer or more often you are in this frequency, the more Love that can enter your experience in the most wonderful and unexpected ways.

Lately I’ve been focusing on opulence. I don’t know why really, guess I’m just feeling like life had become dull. I heard the word and now I want to experience it.

Man that sunset is pure opulence. This nail colour is opulence. My dog is rare & regal af, he is opulence. My entire life is pretty damn opulent. I was walking home and saw ‘opulence’ written on a van parked at the end of my street the day I began focusing on opulence. This stuff doesn’t even phase me anymore, of coarse its literally being written in 3D for me. I went to meditate in my backyard and saw a squirrel that was actually golden. I’ve never seen such a squirrel before! Sounds silly but I get true joy from connecting with nature in my backyard and this was the most opulent squirrel I had ever seen. I cant even find any pics online of a golden “grey” squirrel so it felt pretty magikal. I called for a ride recently as my son had my car. It was the most opulent and expensive car I had ever been in. Felt like a Queen being chauffeured around! Instead of feeling upset that I needed to take a ride, I noticed the opulence. This ones been fun because it’s so random, there’s nothing I really needed here its just been a nice experience as I’m usually pretty pragmatic.

Mastering the skill of becoming the frequency is manifesting 101. For additional guidance and momentum give me a call and we can get the ball rolling together.

Thank you God and Gaia for creating such a magikal place for me to exist in

You Are Not Your Mind

Who are you?

You are not your mind. The mind is a tool for You to use. So, who are you?

Take a breath & observe your thoughts.

The observer is You. This is You. The mind thinks. But You are A Conscious Being.

Really hear this please:

You are a Conscious being. Experiencing. Observing. Sensing.

You experience the present moment. Your mind thinks of the past & future.

The mind is a tool that many have become identified with. You think your mind and all its chatter is “you”. Its really more like Your computer for processing the 3D. Its been so long since the real You has been in command. During childhood, You (aka your ‘higher-self’) were still naturally in the drivers seat. Many people report childhood as the best time of life, despite any circumstances. Because You were still taking precident. Just experiencing life. This is reflected even in our young brainwaves and behaviours. Through conditioning, we are encouraged to the make habit of our mind being in the drivers seat. Its just a part of modern life. Our minds solve problems, like a computer. Our minds are more sophisticated than ever before. Great but…. there’s no balance. We’ve completely identified with our mind, the tool, instead of as Ourselves, a being. Our “thoughts” have taken over, compulsively running the show.

Thinking Thinking Thinking, Pay attention! Use your brain! Whats next? Next challenge! This is but 1 contributing factor to the rising mental health epidemic because the mind is never satisfied. Is a computer fulfilled when it completes a task? Does a computer feel satisfied? Of coarse not, and neither are most people because they are identifying with their mind.

Observe your thoughts now. Just breath, and observe.

Who is observing these thoughts? That’s You You are Consciousness

Lets learn to stop these run-on thoughts, the Monkey Mind as our Buddhist friend call it. The mind is a tool. We can use it again when we need to, we can be a Conscious Spirit who uses our mind, instead of our mind using Us. How do we return to our natural state as an Enlightened Conscious Being?

1)By OBSERVING. Your surroundings, feelings, community, thoughts ….

2)Being PRESENT. Using your 6 senses to be fully absorbed and present as a natural state.

There truly is power in the present. The present moment is the most important moment of your life. Only when we are able to be in the present can we fully engage and hear our feelings and senses, only in the present can we truly hear one another and connect. So for the many who want to fully awaken and make use of the brow chakra, first step is to learn how to be present as You, a conscious being.

Try to observe your thoughts from here on forward. Notice how many choices are executed by the mind. How many things you think or do in a day that isn’t actually You. It can be shocking to hear the program your mind is running.

Practice being “intensely aware” of your surroundings. Like a silent monk. Quiet the chatter and quiet your mouth. Observe. Experience. Engage the 6 senses often. This isn’t an instant fix, it must be done diligently to become a new habit. After a few months You will organically take the lead, you’re Yourself again!

Nothing can satisfy the mind. A person cannot feel true joy when the mind is in control. A computer doesn’t feel fulfilled when it accomplishes a task. Its just done. Much like a person who’s mind is in control never really feels joy. YOU feel joy, minds don’t feel joy. YOU have desires and feelings, the mind doesn’t. This is why Your unfulfilled. You’ve been taking instructions from a computer instead of your Self.

Notice how unhappy people are even though they may have a great life. Why are people so unfulfilled? Because the mind is in control. You may have wanted something different. You may have had a purpose. But You are not doing the driving so now You’ve ended up somewhere You didn’t want to be. Reminds me of these wealthy but unhappy humans who have a spiritual awakening, sell it all and move to a small town, or live in an RV and live nomadically. They’re done “completing tasks”, chasing success or worrying about what people think. They want to finally live, connect, feel, experience, BE.

What will make a person happy? How does one know what direction to take in life? Where can true fulfillment be found?

BEING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

BEING FULLY ABSORBED IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

OBSERVING AND EXPERIENCING LIFE LIFE MORE THAN THINKING ABOUT IT

This allows your Consciousness to return as ruler, as the tool takes a backseat. Soon you will be divinely guided by your higher self again. It may take time, keep practising.

Learn to experience life. Be absorbed in the moment. Sense all that surrounds you in the Now

Healing Self-Hate

Lack of connection is traumatic.

When the lack happens during childhood it creates an insidious affect. Many people are walking around with low self-esteem and self-hate because of this childhood wound, yet it goes unrecognized for most, due to the “nothing” nature of the trauma. What I mean by that is there’s nothing bad that happened, rather there was something good that was supposed to happen but didn’t.

Self-hate sounds dramatic for those who tend to minimize trauma, but it is the core of many peoples imbalances. A lot of people don’t like themselves, including Empaths and Narcissists. It’s an attachment trauma, where the child feels a shame due to chronic rejection (not wanting to spend time with the child, not acknowledging them for who they are) or simply being ignored by their parents. It can also be passed on to a child by a parent (usually unconsciously) who has unhealed self-hate. So while the parent may truly adore their child, they model certain mannerisms or raise the child through the lens of self-hatred. (YES, people who hate themselves often have great Love and admiration for others)

Not being seen or lacking positive social connections is unbearable to humans. When any of us are treated with ambivalence, or have a lack of true connection, we internalize this. On a subconscious level, we understand that we are unlikeable, bad or wrong. It starts from the time were babies and by the time we’re in school its just our normal. It’s becomes part of our internal sense of self. It may or may not be a conscious thought (“I hate myself!” “I’m such a loser”) but most often it shows up as some sort of anxiety or low-self esteem. So, its kind of like this or that but not exactly, and thus it never really gets healed.

Its a hard thing to pin down because again, its not like there’s “something bad” to attribute to the persons’ imbalances, so we instead try to match it to a disorder that most makes sense. Then of course, the person doesn’t get much better with the incorrect treatment and so onto medication or disability or a life of suffering they go. For example, people who have self-hatred are often told they have anxiety, and they do. But its not the same anxiety that may be caused by say, physical abuse or a chemical imbalance. Its caused by internal feelings of being inherently bad, leading to an over-exaggerated emotional response. (Some are now calling this Rejection Sensitivity Dysmorphia) People who grow up believing they are un-likeable tend to have extreme social anxiety, though they may hide this well. And if one believes they are inherently bad, well it only stands to reason that people will find this out and eventually punish or ignore them. Again, it’s extremely painful to humans, being socially rejected or humiliated shows up as true pain in the brain. They often worry if people like them, thus subconsciously altering their mannerisms and berating themselves over every little “mistake” They’re quick to accept blame and often expect to be punished, even making up reasons why they will be, as a sort of future-planning technique. “I probably insulted Anns’ husband when I forgot what his profession was. She probably wont want to hang out again because I’m inconsiderate” And then act accordingly. Meanwhile, Ann’s wondering why this person is being so standoffish to her now and decides to end the budding friendship. Its a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is Karma in action. A faulty subconscious belief that leads to negative consequences. This is an ongoing internal belief that is constantly on alert; ANXIETY And the worst part is, they believe they deserve it. They believe that at any moment, the world is going to find out they are shitty and punish them. Even when things are going well, they believe its just a quiet period, and that someone will eventually discover what a piece of shit they are, and that they will face punishment/scrutiny/rejection eventually. Its just a matter of time. So anxiety as it appears, is not always anxiety. In the case of self-haters, they simply but sadly have an entrenched belief of being unlikeable, unwelcome, unloved, deserving of punishment, and expect rejection.

This also explains why the self-hating person has low self-esteem. Even when successful at certain things, they still “for some reason” feel worthless or bad. For example, a Mother with inner self-hate may see that she does things like a good mom, but still believes she is a bad Mom, because she subconsciously believes she is fundamentally bad. She must be, because even her own parents and peers don’t like her. We are social beings, wired for connections and tribalism. To be rejected or ignored by the tribe has very real biological and energetic consequences. You can sense the difference from someone with traditional low-self esteem and someone with self-hatred. Someone with LSE thinks they are ugly or stupid. Someone with SH may think they are attractive but still unlikeable, able to do things well but still a bad person who will be punished regardless. They don’t want any attention drawn to the good things they’ve done because people will eventually find out they are bad anyways.

When your sitting with someone who cant bear themselves, eventually we cant bear them either. Its just human nature. Despite wanting to like this person, and even truly liking them as a Person, we begin to subtly not like them. They tend to put people off in a way they cant quite put their finger on. Whether it be obvious annoyances (like trying too hard to be accepted or having a poor attitude, not making eye contact with others) or more hidden annoyances (distorted mannerisms and personality traits, odd speech or body language) Eventually the self-loving person (even therapists or teachers) begin to ignore or even despise being around the already rejected self-hater. This only strengthens the subconscious belief that they are unlikeable, & causes the self-hate to deepen. It a really sad cycle. People who Love them self tend to gravitate towards others who love them self, and stay away from distorted energy, and this is why any type of trauma becomes a Karmic Cycle. Healthy people want to be around healthy energy, while imbalances spiral increasingly until the person self-destructs.

So what to do about this then? Firstly, recognize it in yourself or others and be super mindful about it. If you’re well-practiced in mindfulness then you can help heal this in a self-hater by being a friend and having compassion and understanding, patience and positive reflection. Most people at this time are truly self-serving and not in a place where they are able to actually care about someone in this manner. Be aware if you truly have what it takes before attempting to be a positive experience for the self-hater. If self-hatred is chronic relational shame then the treatment is repeated opposite experiences. The opposite of indifference is recognition. The opposite of rejection is acceptance. The opposite of loneliness is togetherness. The opposite of unmet needs (social connection) is CONNECTION CONNECTION CONNECTION! If you recognize self-hatred within yourself, self compassion is the first step. Being aware that this is an untrue belief and being mindful when you get triggered. Self haters don’t often realize they are actively self-hating, so begin to notice and challenge your thoughts and triggered feelings. Use affirmations such as “I am a good person and people like me” before socializing and notice how this calms the nervous system. Or; “Everyone makes mistakes and deserves compassion” when you feel like you’re going to be punished. And of coarse, visit a qualified healer to help discover and release all trapped emotions that are sustaining the faulty actions and beliefs. At Reiki And Alternative Healing we not only release these trapped emotions, but help to build new beliefs and self-Love using mindful mediations and alternative techniques. This brings about a new, clear and positive sense of self. Self-Love becomes You, is reflected back to you, and the new cycle of healthy social connections begins.

Who am I?

You are not your mind. Your mind is a tool for you. So, who are you?

Take a breath & observe your thoughts. The observer is You. This is You. The mind thinks. But You are Consciousness. A Conscious Being. Experiencing. Observing. Sensing.

You are experiencing the present moment. Your mind is often thinking of the past or future.

The mind is a tool that many have become identified with. You think your mind and all its chatter is “you”. Its been so long since the real You has been in command. During childhood, You (your higher-self) were still naturally in the drivers seat. Many people report childhood as the best time of life, despite any circumstances. Because You were still naturally You. Just experiencing life. We are born as our true selves. This is reflected even in our young brainwaves and behaviours. During adolescences through conditioning, we encourage and make habit of our mind being in the drivers seat. Its just a part of modern life. Our minds are more sophisticated than ever before. Great but…. there’s no balance. We’ve completely identified with our mind, the tool, instead of as ourselves, a being. Our “thoughts” have taken over, compulsively running the show.

Thinking Thinking Thinking, Pay attention! Use your brain! Whats next? Next challenge! This is but 1 contributing factor to the rising mental health epidemic. People are now identifying with their thoughts. But you are not your thoughts.

Observe your thoughts now. Breath, and observe.

Who is observing these thoughts? That’s You You are Consciousness

Lets learn to stop these run-on thoughts, the Monkey Mind as our Buddhist friend call it. The mind is a tool. We can use it again when we need to, we can be a Conscious Spirit who uses our mind, instead of our mind using us. How do we return to our natural state of an Enlightened Conscious Being?

1)By OBSERVING. Your surroundings, feelings, community, thoughts ….

2)Being PRESENT. Using your 6 senses to be fully absorbed and present as a natural state.

There truly is power in the present. The present moment is the most important moment of your life. Only when we are able to be in the present can we fully engage and hear our feelings and senses, only in the present can we truly hear one another and connect. So for the many who want to fully awaken and make use of the brow chakra, first step is to learn how to be present as You, a conscious being.

Try to observe your thoughts from here on forward. Notice how many choices are executed by the mind. How many things you think or do in a day that isn’t actually You. It can be shocking to hear the program your mind is running.

Practice being “intensely aware” of your surroundings. Like a silent monk. Quiet the chatter and quiet your mouth. Observe. Experience. Engage the 6 senses often. This isn’t an instant fix, it must be done diligently to become a new habit. After a few months You will organically take the lead, you’re Yourself again!

Nothing can satisfy the mind. A person cannot feel true joy when the mind is in control. A computer doesn’t feel fulfilled when it accomplishes a task. Its just done. Much like a person who’s mind is in control never really feels joy. YOU feel joy, minds don’t feel joy. YOU have desires and feelings, the mind doesn’t. This is why You/your Spirit/Consciousness Being is unfulfilled since childhood. Even children from abusive homes are more fulfilled than successful safe unconscious adults. The mind can never be satisfied.

Notice how unhappy people are even though they may have a great life. Why are people so unfulfilled? Because the mind was in control. You may have wanted something different. You may have had a purpose. But You are not doing the driving so now you’ve ended up somewhere you didn’t want to be. Reminds me of these wealthy but unhappy humans who have a spiritual awakening, sell it all and move to a small town, or live in an RV and live nomadically. Theyre done “completing tasks”, chasing success or worrying about what people think. They want to finally live, connect, feel.

What will make a person happy? How does one know what direction to take in life? Where can true fulfillment be found?

BEING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

BEING FULLY ABSORBED IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

OBSERVING AND EXPERIENCING LIFE LIFE MORE THAN THINKING ABOUT IT

This allows your Consciousness to return as ruler, as the tool takes a backseat. Soon you will be divinely guided by your higher self again.

Learn to experience life. Be absorbed in the moment. Sense all that surrounds you in the Now

Taking Accountability

USING THE 12 LAWS OF KARMA

I struggled with the title on this one. Nothing catchy here. In fact the very idea is quite the turn-off to most. The majority doesn’t want to take personal accountability. Its the currant roadblock to universal healing. Everyone’s a Guru these days, everyone has the answers for someone else. No one wants to take personal stock, or to take the splinter out of their own eye. I, nor any other Healer, Doctor, therapist, Counsellor, Life Coach, Friend, Parent….No One can make your life better or guide you until you take personal accountability. Once you do though, your life opens up in a way that usually makes my clients wish they had sooner. Life gets so much easier and abundant once you deal with this very common block.

After Personal Accountability comes Collective Accountability, which takes empathy. You understand this is a Collective Consciousness. You understand that if garbage is dumped in the ocean on one side of the world, it will effect the other side of the world too. Its being ethical. You understand that manifesting mass fortune while others go without is going to cause great imbalances unless you use the abundance to help society. I’m wary of these insta-healers who make empty promises & teach manifestation without teaching the responsibilities of being a healer/lightworker/actualized human first. They aren’t “waking people up” They’re contributing to Gaia’s downfall.

Many have given up authority over their own lives. With clever excuses and perceived hardships, they justify their lack of self-control. A widespread victim mentality has taken over. It was comforting for a time. But now, many of us, maybe even you too, well we are desperate to regain sovereignty.

Sounds weird right? Why would anyone give up their power?

Take a minute and ponder why you as an individual have given up your power/responsibilities/accountability

Then forgive yourself for relinquishing your power and responsibilities. Take a minute and grieve the losses that occurred as a result of giving up your power. Breathe. Decide to forgive yourself. Truly.

Now make a conscious decision to take it back. And so it is.

Use the 12 Laws of Karma to assist you on this journey

1. The Law Of Cause & Effect What you put out, you get back. Put a lot of effort into your home, your home will reflect that. Be kind to others, and important people will be kind to you. What you don’t put out you also don’t get back. This seems super relevant in 2022 as many are crying about lack of help, yet fail to realize they haven’t really helped anyone but themselves in life.
2. The Law Of Creation Nothing happens without effort. If you want something, you must create it. Every one of us has the power to create for ourselves and the world. Wishful thinking, as we’ve learned, isn’t going to get you that relationship/job/vacation. This ancient law reminds us that manifestation doesn’t mean just “feeling how good it will feel!” will get results. We need to take physical steps in this physical world.
3. The Law Of Humility This law teaches us to accept our own reality. It takes a humble heart to accept your station in life is a result of past actions. It’s a major step towards self-actualization. Learn to be humble well before you criticize literally anyone else. Judgements from an arrogant person hold no value.
4. The Law Of Growth Growth starts within. Real change begins with what you have control over, which is YourSelf, not others. A hard to hear truth about societal inequalities: A lot of people are mad about social issues that are the result of generational lack of action in past. Where one ancestry didn’t take action towards growth, another did. Take ancestral accountability and understand there was not growth at one time where there should have been. Begin the process of growth in the here and now. Things will balance if you actually do something. The universe will support you if you just meet It halfway man! Always look within and don’t worry about what the other persons lessons are. Worry about your own growth and trust the Universe when it’s pushing you to grow. If you are broke, grow your skills. If your alone, grow your social network. Its so weird how many people come into my office believing they can manifest a million magic $$$’s by doing some lame manifestation spell they got off Pinterest, but suddenly lose their faith when it comes to personal growth challenges. If your not willing to grow, you’re not going to outgrow where you are now.
5. The Law Of Responsibility Your life is because of you. If you have accepted your life for what is it, then you can really start taking it on. Taking responsibilities for past choices means taking accountability for them. It also means you are responsible for the world we live in just as much as Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos is. What have you done for your community lately? What have you contributed to humanity? Why do you think you are entitled to great things if you don’t feel responsible for great things?
6. The Law Of Connection This law emphasizes that we are a connected collective, and that everything in the past, present and future are connected. When you are greedy and take more than your share, that is connected to the person who will now receive less. The person who receives less now has kids with an exhausted parent. Exhaustion leads to poor mental health. The kids grow up with a mentally ill parent and now they suffer karmic imbalances. One day they join a gang and now the communities are unsafe and people are aggressive and scared and everyone has fucking anxiety just leaving the house and…… well you get the picture. One way of another, the imbalance will manifest into society.
7. The Law Of Focus Focusing on too many things at once is not enough energy to make any of them bloom. Imagine you have 1 bucket of water a day. If you have 10 flower pots they will all die because that’s not enough water for all of them and now you have nothing. If you focus on 3 flower pots they will have an abundance of water and grow into something of real value. Likewise, if you focus most of your energy on Love, it will leave little room for resentment or anger. Its not about tuning a blind eye to abuse or injustice, or reducing our abundance threshold. Its about understanding how energy works
8. The Law Of Giving & Hospitality This law is about learning selflessness. A lesson not often taught these days. Notice how much you dislike everyone? I hear it al the time “I fucking hate people!” “People are the worst!” “Why are people so shitty these days?” It’s because of this law right here. Practice what you preach, follow The Golden Rule (only for real;) give and do for others with happiness in your heart. Humanity is currently selfish and there’s always an “ethical” excuse to be so. Not your responsibility to help the sick family member, why should I bother helping the environment when factory pollution is worse, not your job to volunteer at the food bank, why should you do something nice for her, she has more $ than you do……oh I had a trauma 3 years ago and I’m going to use that excuse to get out of helping others. In life, we get many opportunities to prove we are the amazing good people we claim to be. Don’t let these opportunities slip away.
9. The Law Of Here & Now This law is about being in the present moment. Taking accountability is so much easier when we stay in the here and now. People who refuse to take personal responsibility are the same ones who say “one day when I get this Ill do that!” Cool, what about right now though. Living in the past or future is how we justify making excuses. there’s a reason learning to be present is crucial when overcoming addictions. there’s always something coming up, something from the past bothering us. But right now, right now you are fine. You can do this right now. Helping others right now has nothing to do with yesterday. Making a new plan isn’t dependent on tomorrow. Being fully absorbed in the moment is the only way to hear our intuition and instincts.
10. The Law Of Change Does the same thing keep happening again and again? This law teaches us to change our actions or structures in order to elicit desired change. Again, its the Universes way of teaching us that if something is not working, we need to try something else. It wants us to understand the signs its throwing our way. History will repeat itself until certain efforts are made. So instead of complaining, put in some effort and try a new approach with diligence and care. Many will ask why they should change if they are the victim “I’m the one who keeps getting screwed, its OTHER people who need to change!!” If this is your attitude you have a long way to go. Stop worrying about them and focus on you. What can you do differently that may lead to the change you want? Keep trying until you find the adjustment needed for success.
11. The Law Of Patience & Reward As a practical earth sign, this law is my favorite. All rewards require patient and persistent toil. You don’t get a beautiful garden without tilling the land. Be consistent with your efforts lest the energy will dissipate. Patient and Persistent. If you neglect your garden for even a few days in August, you’re bound to lose it all. Don’t argue with nature. This applies to energetic nature. Don’t tell me “Well the elites whatever blah blah blah” We’re not talking about them. You don’t even know them. We’re talking about you. Worry about you.
12. The Law Of Significance & Inspiration Your actions matter. You inspire change. What you do has immeasurable affect on the collective. Small actions matter a lot. Don’t ever think you’re insignificant. You are very important, and so is every little thing you do. We all contribute to this world. We all have impact on the lives of others. Understand this great gift/power/responsibility and use it how you want, to be frank. Which means if you want this to be a better world, then you should know that every little effort you’ve made has indeed made this a better world.

Staying Bright

Cognitive function has taken a dive over the last few years and many are noticing since the pandemic restrictions has eased, that they are not the bright-minded person they once were. Before we get started lets remind ourselves that we don’t have waste with age, and that believing these myths is akin to giving our mind/body an instruction. Age does come with biological and structural adjustments that can change the way we think, but this isn’t the same as cognitive decline.

1 Socialize Social interaction has been a major part of your cognitive development since the day you were born. As humans, we are wired for social interaction. It was and always will be a key factor in your brains health. It is a unique kind of exercise for the brain, and even us introverts need it daily. Ever see a lonely divorcee or elderly person rapidly decline during periods of isolation? These declines are also marketly present when we look at the brains of lonely people. It’s a bit of a trap because once your at the point of decline, the last thing you want to do is socialize. Do it anyway, start small, you know the drill. Bit by bit it will light back up.

2 Detox If your body is full of synthetic chemicals, heavy metals, preservatives and pollutants, so is your brain. Toxins are a major cause of psychiatric issues, yet traditional psychiatrists pretty much ignore their impact on mental health. Brain patterns akin to drug users and alcoholics were present in people with high levels of environmental toxins ie mold, pollution, food additives ect. Neurotoxins play a key role in late-life cognitive diseases such as Dementia. Toxins in the body reduce cerebral blood flow. Low blood flow is the #1 predictor of Alzheimers. Toxins also disrupt hormones, which causes anxiety, depression, ADD and an overall decline in brain health. We can reverse damage by detoxing and allowing healing to take place.

3 Eat Well Nootropics (smart drugs) are gaining popularity as cognitive function declines. They’re used to boost memory, focus, memory, intelligence and motivation. When we look at the ingredients, they’re often just derivatives of all the healthy stuff we should already be eating. Whole foods (as in eat the whole chicken, not just the boneless breast), herbs, plants and the occasional supplement on a consistent basis will nourish your brain and keep it young indefinitely. The body (which includes the brain!) cannot rebuild and replenish if it doesn’t have the building blocks needed to…. build! As children our parents were hopefully concerned with making sure we got everything we needed to grow up big and strong. But as adults we forget that we are constantly regenerating, every new cell needing new life force and nourishment. We still need to eat our veggies so we don’t run out of materials to build with.

4 Engage the Mind Learn something new or do something you already love. I love to write. Most of the stuff I write goes in the garbage bin. But its exercise for my mind and it inspires new thoughts. Some love puzzles or researching a new topic. Learn to dance or cook new recipes. Try out that hobby. There are plenty of free courses you can take, online or in person. You get the idea. Challenging the mind activates brain cells and encourages synapses. It stimulates and electrifies it. Much like a muscle, if we don’t use it, we lose it. The good news is, if you’re feeling you’ve lost it, there’s a great chance you can get it back, and even surpass. Believe in yourself.

5 Exercise the Body When we exercise all kinds of cool things happen beyond burning calories. Fresh oxygen is pumped into the brain. Cerebral production molecules increase (I’m not sure what those are but they sound important!) It stimulates healing hormones needed for the growth of new brain cells and promotes plasticity. Stress is obviously bad for the body, and exercise actually decreases the number of stress receptors in the brain, minimizing stress molucule impact. And so much more. I used to think exercise was just for the heart and waistline, however after researching ways to promote brain health, I was amazed at how it really is a necessary aspect to literally every cell and function in the body.

6 Clear Out Trapped Emotions Trapped emotions in general can lead to poor health, especially in the area they’re lodged as it reduces & distorts subtle energy/life force/Chi/Ki/Prana in that area. They also influence the subconscious and ultimately the choices we make. They interfere with our intuition and base processes. Trapped emotions are a common cause for self-sabotaging behaviours and self-abuse, while inhibiting our natural cravings. And of coarse these distortions have impact on so many other faucets of life and health in general (ie trapped vibration of Insecurity will make it hard to connect with others, trapped vibration of depression can lead to comfort eating) Trapped emotions are often the root cause, the very core reason why we have detrimental habits and dysfunction to begin with. Its the energetic distortion that precedes physical manifestation.

Goals Simply

Many in this day of unlimited potential, are having an increasingly hard time accomplishing important goals. By “important”, I mean personally. These goals are truly desired by many clients, so why the resistance?

There are numerous coaches and high-priced planners, systems and drugs people take to try and force ourselves to be our “best self!” Heck I’ve even seen people try hypnotherapy, magic spells or travel isolation as a means to force the manifestation of desired goals. The techniques are little more than tricks without substance.

Goal-orientation is nothing new with humans. So there’s a lot of material to learn from. And the reality is, reaching goals boils down to 2 concepts

1) Releasing subconscious blocks that are holding you back. As we know removing these blocks are actually quite easy. Its what I do with nearly every client that comes in regardless of why they’ve come in. It’s one-half of the process in nearly all healing, simply clear out any distortions. Often people coming in wanting help to achieve a goal have the same few distortions: Fear, Creative Insecurity or Forlorn. Clear them up and then we can actually implement some choices.

2)Eliminate activities that give you an easy hit. Today’s world has created a brain that expects instant gratification. Instant food, entertainment, praise, travel, sexual activity, purchases….Instant hits of feel good brain chemicals on demand. Couple that with a generation of people who think they’re the main character deserving all the rights with none of the responsibilities makes for an entitled brain. Yep, that’s right. Calm your ego, its just currant reality. For example, the constant hit of dopamine every time someone “likes” your picture or comment makes your brain motivated (addicted) to social media. When you kill the bad guy in a video game – instant hit, you feel good and accomplished. From your brains perspective, why bother studying a sophisticated book with chapters when you can parrot one stupid comment and get that hit instantly? Yea, I’m not the fun healer. I’m okay with this. Some think an instant “fix” via hypnotizing your mind into behaving for 2-6 weeks is good enough. Effort is the new F-word. Wasting time with surface-level attempts is what the herd wants. it’s a fun distraction. Unfortunately for them, they never actually get anywhere.

Your brain is getting what it needs with these time-wasting surface-level endeavors.

Understanding how to be a goal-achiever means understanding your attention is precious!!!

So to put it simply, you need to eliminate the distractions. You can’t fight your brain but you CAN make choices and change it. Eliminate them. If you truly want to achieve a goal, the first step is elimination of distraction. Or don’t. Its your life. But if you want to be properly motivated you’ll need to. The human brain is incredibly innovative and motivated and finds accomplishing goals naturally pleasurable. If it’s used to an instant hit, it won’t surmise the need for effort.

Your brain, in its opinion, is constantly achieving “goals” ie feel-good-hormones. It is naturally inclined to want to accomplish a goal. You just need to consciously choose the goals.

So that’s a lot of explanation for whats really, a simple game-plan. Lets sum it up

1) Remove the trapped emotions interfering with the subconscious.

2) Remove the distractions that are interfering with your brains reward system.

Its a process. When I finally deleted my social media for good, it was a good 4/5 weeks of feeling blah with 0 motivation. But I knew it wouldn’t be an instant affect, we need to be more patient and I was prepared for that. Eventually my brain was bored and depleted enough that accomplishing my “finish 1 chapter a day” goal was a pleasure and I felt really good, enough that by the end I wanted to do 4-8 chapters a day. I simply removed any blocks that were interfering with my actions, and then removed the distractions. The rest happened naturally.

This is my strategy, and its worked for everyone I’ve seen put into action. To get started preparing your mind to be positively motivated and reaching goals naturally, give me a call. It doesn’t have to be complicated, but it does have to be intelligent 😉

Emotion Code is Shadow Work

Shadow work is essentially clearing out the karma & dysfunctional programs we acquired through living in a sick society   As we continue to break generational curses and “do the work” we create a ripple effect that benefits yourself and everyone around you. Through decades of learning and healing, I’ve found emotion code to be the best and simplest way to heal the shadow side. Unlike CBT or hypnotherapy, which just suppresses the distortions even further down, clearing is permanent.  

Our shadow side (undesirable habits, karma and faulty beliefs) is what’s preventing you from living the full measure of your creation.  These energetic distortions influence our subconscious.  Lets use overeating as an example. You DONT want to overeat, you DO want to be thinner.  But for “some” reason you DO overeat and cant seem to resist doing the very thing you DONT want to do. Why? Because there is a trapped emotion/karmic distortion which is influencing your subconscious. So even though you decided you DONT want to overeat, your subconscious is still listening to that trapped emotion.  And as we know, the subconscious is like an undercurrent that ultimately affects our conscious decisions.

A certified healer can tap into your subconscious and find the trapped emotion, most precisely through muscle testing.  Last time I dealt with an over eater I found a fear vibration lodged in her from when she was 18 years old.   I ask “what was going on when you were 18 that caused fear?”  She recalls that when she turned 18 she left home and was really afraid of how she would support herself, and when she did get a good meal it gave her a sense of peace. Now, a good meal can do that, but the fear lodged in her body never resolved. We then acknowledged the fear, often talk about if it makes sense to continue harboring, sometimes we even thank the trapped emotion for helping us in the moment, and then clear the distorted fear energy from her body.   

This is shadow work.  You are who you are, and we would never want to change who you are.  Shadow work is just clearing distorted energy from You, so that you can be more You!

If you’ve ever wanted to stop doing something but just cant, chances are you have energetic distortions. We have physical body and an energetic body, and its time we start taking care of both in a meaningful way. If you feel like you’re less than the full measure of You and cant reach who you really are, you have (subconscious) blocks.  If your mental state is not what you intuitively know it could be, there are likely trapped emotions. These are shadow aspects that are influencing You ~and this is why we have healers. 

Dr.Semmelweis, a 19 century MD found that “for some reason” washing his hands before delivery a baby or preforming surgery resulted in huge declines of infection & death. His colleagues protested what they did not understand. It must be witchcraft or an outright lie, they refused to try his “technique” They were insulted by the simplicity. He was committed to an insane asylum for such inflammatory claims, where he died.  All because they didn’t understand and it seemed too easy. Energy healing is a new concept for many, creating similar controversy in health and wellness.  Despite results, if they cannot understand it they don’t acknowledge the benefits.  

As with many fields of medical & scientific understandings and conclusions go, the proof is in the pudding.   Can I explain to a measurable fact why this is such profound healing? Not at this time. But I do know it works and that’s why I keep learning and healing 💚