Build your psychological resilience. Sorry, but there’s really no candy-assed answer for this one. It is a personal journey, and it doesn’t happen over night. Many were not given the opportunity to build their psychological resilience as children, and this leads to adults who have a victim mind-set. Helplessness drives everyone away except for enablers and predators. Stop waiting for people to rescue you, and start rescuing yourself. Here are the 5 main ways we accomplish this:
Work On Your Confidence
Not pretending, not being arrogant. It means learn to accept yourself for who you are. Maybe you don’t really know yourself. If that’s the case, I encourage you to begin the process of discovering your gifts and all the wonderful things that make you You. A session with a seasoned healer can help if you don’t know where to start. Be realistically optimistic, everyone has special gifts and magic. Everyone also has things they are not good at, be okay with this. Cultivate a belief in your ability to solve problems, which only happens if you try to solve your problems. I’ll bet when you do, you will amaze yourself with what you can accomplish.
Make a conscious effort to be aware of where you’re at with your emotional mastery. Understand the faulty programming you may have received as a child, and challenge your beliefs and assumptions. Notice patterns in your life. Are you always stressed in the morning? Do you always pick hurtful friends or hang around people who are a bad influence? Do you tend to be defensive when there wasn’t truly a need? Notice the patterns and accept that they aren’t happening to you, but with you
Accept full responsibility for your own life, including all decisions and actions. You may first need to humble thy self, which sounds scary to some, but is actually liberating. It is your job to build a healthy support system, which includes a balanced give-and-take. It is your job to manage your mental health and life. This means that if you have, say, anxiety, it is your job to find healing and manage it. It is your job to deal with the repercussions that come from any and all of your personal endeavors. This may include asking for help, but it doesn’t entitle you to it either. We all have our own crosses to bear, and those who take personal accountability for theirs become powerful in their own life.
Learn To Adapt
Sometimes we must deal with situations that are uncomfortable. Sometimes things change. Managing unexpected detours should be expected in this reality. Be like the Willow tree and bend instead of breaking, while remaining open to opportunities for growth, learning and eventual peace and happiness
Find A Purpose
A purpose earns us a sense of strength and self-esteem. A purpose can be anything, its best to leave ego out of this one. Being consciously kind to animals is a purpose. Helping your family thrive is a purpose. Being an example of a Divine Masculine is a purpose. Becoming a dentist who volunteers in the prisons is a purpose. Whatever purpose you feel in your heart will develop your personal resilience and is most definitely part of your mission in this life. Again, if you are having trouble finding your purpose, a healer or life coach can help.